Posts by Debi

PSA for Parents Navigating their First Holidays with a Transgender Child

Posted on Nov 27, 2019 in Personal Thoughts | 0 comments

PSA for Parents Navigating their First Holidays with a Transgender Child

A lot of folks start decorating for the holidays around Thanksgiving, so it’s a good time to take stock of what those decorations are now before any kids are involved…especially if this is your *first* year since your child has come out as transgender. Think about any personalized decorations you have that might be very gendered or have the birth name on it…stockings, handmade ornaments from preschool with the name painted on the back, an ornament-of-the-year of a football player before you knew Steven as Stephanie or of a girl in pigtails holding a teddybear before you new Stephanie as Stephen… Ask your child in a separate conversation *before*...

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Trans-Parenting Podcast Episode 9: An Interview with Darlene Tando, LCSW

Posted on Oct 26, 2016 in Podcast | 3 comments

http://traffic.libsyn.com/transparenting/TransParenting_Podcast_E9.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Google Podcasts | RSSIn Episode 9 of the Trans-Parenting podcast, I sat down to chat with Darlene Tando, a licensed clinical social worker who recently appeared on the Dr. Phil show. In that episode, a mom and her teen were on to talk about the mom’s struggle accepting her daughter’s transition. Darlene is also the author of “The Conscious Parent’s Guide to Gender Identity: A Mindful Approach to Embracing Your Child’s Authentic Self,” which you can purchase on Amazon.   As a...

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Trans-Parenting Podcast Episode 8: Q&A session

Posted on Sep 7, 2016 in Podcast | 1 comment

http://traffic.libsyn.com/transparenting/08_TransParenting_Podcast_E8_1.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Google Podcasts | RSSIn this episode, I answer questions I received during a Q&A session on Facebook, with additional questions from private messages and Twitter. Here’s the rundown: 4:40   How old are you? 5:01   How tall are you? 5:38    What do we do in places like North Carolina when we send our kids to school and don’t know if the school will support our child? 10:40   My daughter just started school yesterday and she is having problems with the other kids that she has known awhile who are now...

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Trans-Parenting Podcast Episode 7: How to Create a Trans-Inclusive School

Posted on Aug 3, 2016 in Podcast | 0 comments

http://traffic.libsyn.com/transparenting/TransParenting_Podcast_E7.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Google Podcasts | RSSWhat should a school do to become transgender-inclusive? I recently gave the keynote address to the NEA’s GLBT Caucus during their annual dinner telling our not-so-great experience with a school and offering tips on how they could begin creating a safe and affirming space for trans and gender non-conforming students within their schools. You can read the transcript of the speech in the previous blog post, but for those who like podcasts or prefer to hear inflections of a speaker’s...

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Speech to the NEA GLBT Caucus about creating supportive schools

Posted on Jul 7, 2016 in Education Issues | 2 comments

I’m in Washington, D. C. today after having delivered the keynote address at the NEA GLBT Caucus dinner, an impressively large event that takes place during the NEA’s national conference each year. It began with 10 teachers a couple of decades ago, and last night more than 940 education professional attended! Several people introduced themselves to me last night by saying, “I’ve never taken notes during a speech at a dinner before until tonight.” Other’s said they couldn’t write things down quickly enough and asked if I could put the speech online for easy reference. I’m glad it had such a profound impact on the audience....

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